Cultural Misconception
| Posted On: 12/28/07 04:03:11 PM |
Age 34, MO |
We all are faced daily with the sexual immorality of our culture. The priority of sexual passion and fulfillment whatever the cost has replaced the godly image of sexual intimacy. The body is focused on, and women are left feeling that it is only their body that is desired by men, which is far from the truth. Sexual intimacy is an emotional need for men, not primarily physical.
The emotional need that it meets in men is not so different than the emotional need that intimate communication meets in women. When a husband listens to his wife, without the t.v. and without just trying to fix her, and seeks to understand rather than reply, she feels valued, important, special, connected, and deeply loved. It boosts her self confidence and gives her strength. Most of all it communicates to her that her husband is supportive and considerate of her needs, desires, and concerns.
When a wife meets her husband's needs of sexual intimacy, he can't help but feel important, valued, connected, and deeply loved. It boosts his self confidence and gives him tremendous strength to deal with the world's pressures. He can be struggling in his career, but still feel empowered when his wife values him in that way. It communicates to him that his wife is supportive and considerate of his needs and desires.
The whole trick to a good marriage is becoming an expert at the needs of the other that are not natural for yourself. A woman does not have the sexual intimacy needs that a man does. A man does not have the communication intimacy needs that a woman has. BUT, when you consider the other as more important than yourself, you will intentionally decide to meet those needs even though they are not your own.
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KEEP OUT OF WRONG CIRCUMSTANCES
| Posted On: 12/19/07 11:53:57 AM |
Age 64, OH |
You hit upon the key which is keeping yourself out of situations that could lead to temptation. Sin leads to more sin. the sexual sin is usually the result of some other sin surrendered to before the sexual sin. No wonder there is so much sexual sin in the church. I see many male pastors counseling the wife of other men. This is spiritual adultery. I have been in many churches where it is filled with a male pastor and his harem made up of the wifes of other men who do not attend his church. How is this teaching the Christian women to submit to their husband and make him the head as they would Christ. I do not disciple women. I am willing to disciple their father, brother, or husband, or even son but not the woman. She should seek out another woman to have her teach her or a couple could teach her together with great care if she is married. Lou
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temptation
| Posted On: 12/18/07 11:13:28 AM |
Age 48, TX |
This is an excellent article. A man is certainly responsible for his own actions, and often times it is necessary to choose to remove yourself from certain environments to avoid the sin of lust and the sin of sexual temptation. Unfortunately, the statement in the article about most women not understanding the intensity of the temptation is probably very true. The article states that, "Couples must view sexual frustration as a threat to their marriages." This is so true. When sex becomes an unapproachable subject because the wife does not want to understand or care, the temptation is harder to avoid and the man's rejection by his wife is heart wrenching.
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