Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/20/07 10:43:59 AM |
Age 47, AR |
To Whom it may concern,
I really disagree with what some women say about having a job out side of the home. Yes I have 2 children. Yes they had a WONDERFUL babysitter. She loved my boys very much. When I took this job (that I still have after 22 years )I was only 26 years old and childless at the time. I live in southeast Arkansas where good paying jobs are hard to find. I had to work to survive. I prayed for my job! I was 32 yrs. old when I had my 1st child. By this time I realized I didn't have a job, I had a ministery. You see I teach the mental retarded. And bless God I love it! But I seek God in all things, so when my son was born I thought I should quit my job, but God said No. I have 2 wonderful sons that both have accepted Chrisit as their savior. One is 15 yrs. and the other is almost 12.
yrs.Yes I am blessed! By the way MY children treat my STUDENTS with respect and don't ask stupid questions like "what purpose do they ( the mental retarded) serve?" like some of y'all do AND you know who you ARE!!
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/19/07 01:28:01 PM |
Age 47, CA |
Even before I became a Christian I felt the strong need to put aside my career goals, while pregnant with my 1st child, and I was making more $ than my husband at the time. After he was born 19 years ago, I worked out with my employer to work at home part-time for 3 months, while I seriously thought about staying at home as a full-time mother and having a home business. I proposed continuing working at home after the 3 months but my employer said no, so that was all the incentive I needed to start my home business as a typist, and within 6 months my husband had to leave his job due to a back injury. While bedbound he read about how to do computer programming and we bought a computer. I got our 1st programming client and a new home business was started. When we got too busy I hired my sister to do daycare in our house so that I could be around the kids all day. We were then completely on our own financially and after about 3 years were doing better than being employed. The only time my kids were away from me was when my sister couldn't do daycare and I walked my son 2 blocks away to a home day care setting where he played with about 5 other young children about 10 hours a week. All through their elementary - high school years I have been at home. I am involved in their lives as much as they will allow because they both are very social and like to be with their friends as much as possible. I was very involved volunteering in their classrooms and was their primary nurterer all their lives. Now my son is expressing his need to move out and my daugter will be going off to college in July; both will move on in 2008. I feel I've gone full circle in my life and now I'm ready to join the workforce again and make a financial contribution to help pay for their college expenses and our bills. If you make this biblical sound sacrifice for your children you will never regret it. It's a step of faith to get off the work bandwagon, but pray that God will provide the means to raise your children at home where only you and your husband can provide them exactly what they need. To you they are priceless, to a daycare person most look at them as a way to make a living. Of course their are exceptions and some children are better off in daycare if their parents are not loving, nurturing, emotionally stable, or have abusive tendencies. I received an AA and did not pursue a higher degree; my husband didn't even get an AA. We are both very smart and our lack of higher education didn't mean that we had to suffer financially. Some years we earned $125,000, and some years $50,000. In my area the average income is $48,000, so even in our lowest income years we fared very well. My daughter wants to pursue an undergraduate (BS) degree, as well as my son, and I'm all for it. I've been a great role model for them and I'm not worried that she will get a degree and marry and put her baby in daycare full-time while working. I know she will remember how wonderful it was that mom and dad were home for her all through her childhood. Has everything been all rosey? Nope, she ran away from home and got in trouble with the law, just like a lot of rebellious teens do. She came back 2 days later. My son did not. She survived through her consequences and the rebellion is no longer there. My only regret is that my husband and I didn't know the Lord in their childhood and so they were not raised as Christians. We became Christians when they were 14 and 16 and we have tried many times to talk to them about Jesus but their ears were not open to hearing us. This became a point of contention and so we backed off. We pray continually that the Lord will send peers to each of them to open their hearts, ears and eyes to the Word. Would you pray for us in this regards too? Bless you and your family (or future family). Brenda
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/17/07 10:39:39 AM |
Age 24, OH |
As a single woman studying in college to "make a career for herself" I am so encouraged by this article. Finally! Someone voicing the Truth about the Lord's call on women. I have always known that the Lord will bring me together with a husband and we will serve Him and raise children to do the same. I am tired of the lies of this world saying that I have to get a bachelor's degree and be a "career woman." No, I must be a woman in submission to the Lord. Thank you!
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/16/07 07:36:51 PM |
Age 47, KS |
I agree wholeheartedly w/ this commentary. For years I have questioned the push for putting children in pre-school, let alone daily child care. I thank God for the conviction early on that I am the best person to care for my children. Now they are 16 and 19 and I have absolutely no regrets and only gratefulness to the Lord for His leading in this area. It can be a difficult stand to take in our culture and we need to be sure we are affirming to mothers who do choose to be there for their children. Of course, there are situations where it isn't possible for mom to stay home. Let's be supportive of moms in that situation and do what we can to help out.
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/16/07 04:37:05 PM |
Age 43, IL |
I was thinking of baking cookies today ...your article confirmed it! Thanks for the reminder.
Susan McCurdy
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/16/07 02:28:18 PM |
Age 44, IN |
Amen, Ingrid!
I ALWAYS pick your articles to read because you write JUST EXACTLY what I was thinking!! How many more babies have to die in the back seat of cars before women today will realize that they are not putting their "KIDS FIRST?" Their children are NOT their first priority! Ingrid, I wonder if you might consider checking into the campaign called, "Breast Cancer Awareness?" Since it IS October, and they are calling it the month to make everyone "AWARE", I wonder if they know or would talk about it if they did know, the fact that there IS an abortion/breast cancer link. AND, there are statistics showing that there is a link between breast cancer and women who have used birth control for many years, and waited until their 30's & later to have babies. I have NEVER heard any of the people (stores are big into it, too...Hallmark, Walgreens, and many, many more all promote & sell the "PINK RIBBON" stuff all over the place.)ever talking about the "probable causes." I have asked a sales clerk (only after she has asked me if I want to contribute to help find a cure for breast cancer)before if they are aware of the abortion/breast cancer link. They are not "AWARE". I think it's time that they were. Especially, since they are out there collecting money to help find a cure. The cure may be found in the knowledge of what we can do to try to prevent it. Get married young (like our parents' generations did) and have children at a young age, instead of using birth control for years while in college; having unmarried sex, and then aborting any "mistakes", because we are not ready. We need to realize that all the "interference" that we throw at our natural proclivity, does have a price. Thanks for listening.
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/16/07 12:15:47 PM |
Age 48, TX |
Thank you, Mrs. Schlueter for putting your finger right on the source of the problem.
How did our society get so off-track? My
children are all almost grown, and I agree that raising them myself was the highest calling of my life. I always pitied the children who after school only looked forward to getting on a bus with a driver who showed no joy in her face when this child entered her bus. I tried to be "everyone's" mother, having latch-key kids in our home after school. The motherhood lie says that it's just the physical care that mothers give, but that's just the tip of the iceberg. I listened to these kids, I was excited when they came in;
this instilled self-value in them. Children don't receive these things at day care.
I fear that our society is in big trouble.
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Hilary Clinton is a Christian! But I like your point too.
| Posted On: 10/16/07 12:07:00 PM |
Age 32, CA |
I just had to respond to the article's quoting Hilary Clinton. For one thing, you can google Hilary Clinton and the word cookies to get her personal recipe. For another, she successfully reared a daughter who seems to be an upstanding citizen. Also - her husband cheated on her and she did the most un-feminist thing imaginable... she worked on repairing her marriage and succeeded! I agree that many militantly feminist groups are condescending to homemakers and mothers - but the majority of women, feminists included, know and believe that being a wife and mother is an incredibly difficult task that takes intelligence, finesse and skill. However, there are many women who do not marry at all, or cannot have children. There are also many women who are authentically talented breadwinners in comparison to their husbands. Times are hard out there, and often families need 2 incomes to survive. Hurrah to the homemaker!! On the other hand, hurrah to the working mom who is, like most of us, just trying to make a good home for our families in the best way we know how.
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/16/07 09:54:12 AM |
Age 38, VA |
I bought into the whole "be a woman of influence." I went to college, got a teaching degree and working in the Public Schools for about 10 years. I couldn't take it anymore. I was spending more time in a classroom with 25 kids than I was with my own children. My son was having problems and we finally sat down and asked God what to do.
I am now home full time--Home schooling my own children. It has been the best decision I could have made. I am home with my children, giving them my love and attention, not giving it to someone else's child. Yes, financially it is a challenge. But so worth it. And God always provides. My son is in a much better place now and both my children are blossoming.
I finally realized (and this is not a judgement against anyone else, just me) that I was being incredibly selfish to have 2 children and then decide to have someone else raise them. I was so blinded by "ME" and getting what I wanted that I forgot that being a mom was about sacrifice. I'm so glad I realized it.
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/16/07 09:20:32 AM |
Age 50, TX |
Thank you for this wonderful article. My husband is going to teach a lesson to the teenagers at our church this coming Sunday on 1 Tim. 5 and Titus 2 on the role of women in the home. He has already received some opposition to the biblical view of women, this will be an encouragement to him.
Also, I received a voice mail from my 20 year old son who was away at college. He thanked me for being a homemaker when I could have had a "successful career." I have never regretted raising my own children and staying at home.
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/16/07 09:03:12 AM |
Age 44, TX |
Ingrid, what a great article! Although I have no children, I've wanted nothing more than to be a wife and mom all my life. And while I have a good job that I am thankful for, I get so sick of the world telling me how fulfilling a career is. It's just a grind and a rat-race, and I've never understood why the world idolizes women with careers. To me, there is no greater calling for a woman than that of being a wife and mother. Thanks again for being bold enough to share the truth!
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Re: Becoming a Woman of Influence: The Case for Cookie Bakers
| Posted On: 10/16/07 07:35:53 AM |
Age 50, FL |
Yes and Amen! We decry the attitude of the 'world' when it comes to mothering, but the church is no different. The church has set up the 'kiddie kennels' for our children and continued to encourage a women to fulfill herself outside of her home. I was a stay-at-home Mom whose household income in the Washington DC area(in 1980) was $12,000. Sure, I had to be a creative homemaker to make ends meet, but we lived well. At least in all the categories that I have taught my 5 children matter; love, family, friends, a home, a car to drive and food to eat! Our churches need to teach on Titus homes!
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